One of the things I value most in life is my relationships. I’ve always been told that I have a big heart and to me, that’s a compliment. I have so much love to give and I welcome everyone into my life with open arms. However, a big heart can also be easily hurt and broken. As I grow older, I find myself investing more time and effort into the people I love and care about. My circle may have grown smaller, but these are the people I want to stay in my life for the long run. But recently, I had to take a step back and reevaluate my friendships.
What hurts the most is seeing a friendship that you once value and prioritize become just a memory. There is no right or wrong in this situation and there is no good or bad guy. I’ve come to realize that people change and sometimes, that change doesn’t involve the other person. People grow distant, and that’s okay. There comes a point in time where you have to learn to let go of the other person in order to grow. I’ve always had a hard time of letting go of someone I genuinely care about, but at the same time, I need to put myself first. I constantly see myself putting others first before myself. Sure, it’s a good trait to have but at the end of the day, I had to ask myself, “Are they willing to do the same for me?”
I’m not necessarily saying to completely end a relationship. However, I am saying that it’s perfectly fine to distance yourself from people who aren’t willing to put in the same effort as you are. It’s definitely not a goodbye. The best advice I was given,”Invest your time into the relationships that actually matter to you. Keep building onto the healthy relationships and let go of the ones that are holding you down.”